Big Change Brings Big Questions

We all have moments of starting a new.  These moments happen when we move, or children leave home, or we have a change in our job or lifestyle.  Walking through the big changes of leaving a ministry that I have loved so dearly has brought forth old questions that are beckoning to be answered in a new and hopefully deeper way.

When I was busy running from meeting to class to appointment to home, I was too exhausted to really listen to these questions or the answers that would come forth.  My focus was always on: How did I need to show up in order for others to be okay, and   What was the next fire that needed to be put out?

With all of this removed, there is a void that is allowing  me to look more deeply at what this change could mean for me.  How might this change transform the way I show up in the world?

I always thought of voids as uncomfortable at best and painful at worst.  Yet,  the longer I sit, the clearer life becomes and the freer I feel to really live in a way that demonstrates what I believe.

Isn’t that what we are called to do?  Each of us is here to live in a way that demonstrates what we believe to be true about life: what we value.  I value the power of transformation.  The power of change that happens when we embrace the courage and strength we have within us to move out of a rut and unto a new road.   I value love, kindness, joy, strength, and wisdom.  These are but a few of the qualities that I am working to express more clearly in my new life.

The question for me now is: How do I express these qualities in my day-to-day life?   I have a saying that I have used for years.  I’m on an as need to know basis and God doesn’t think I as need to know yet, or I would.  I do; however,  believe what I need to know is unfolding in each moment that I am aware of where I am and what I am doing.

What is your purpose?  What do you value?  How are you expressing those qualities in your life?  I’d love to hear from you.

4 responses to “Big Change Brings Big Questions”

  1. I was so happy to see you are still there and sharing . I would love to get together with you over coffee one day. Many blessings


    1. Thank you, Dee. I am still here and would love to get coffee. Call me.


  2. Hi Dear Charli,

    This is what was in my morning email and I love it, as do I love seeing what you have to say.
    Frederick Buechner Center
    ON HER DEATHBED, Gertrude Stein is said to have asked, “What is the answer?” Then, after a long silence, “What is the question?” Don’t start looking in the Bible for the answers it gives. Start by listening for the questions it asks.

    We are much involved, all of us, with questions about things that matter a good deal today but will be forgotten by this time tomorrow—the immediate wheres and whens and hows that face us daily at home and at work—but at the same time we tend to lose track of the questions about things that matter always, life-and-death questions about meaning, purpose, and value. To lose track of such deep questions as these is to risk losing track of who we really are in our own depths and where we are really going. There is perhaps no stronger reason for reading the Bible than that somewhere among all those India-paper pages there awaits each one of us, whoever we are, the one question that (though for years we may have been pretending not to hear it) is the central question of our individual lives. Here are a few of them:

    For what will it profit them if they gain the whole world but forfeit their life? (Matthew 16:26)
    Am I my brother’s keeper? (Genesis 4:9)
    If God is for us, who can be against us? (Romans 8:31)
    What is truth? (John 18:38)
    How can anyone be born after having grown old? (John 3:4)
    What do people gain from all the toil at which they toil under the sun? (Ecclesiastes 1:3)
    Whither shall I go from thy Spirit? (Psalm 139:7)
    Who is my neighbor? (Luke 10:29)
    What shall I do to inherit eternal life? (Luke 10:25)

    When you hear the question that is your question, then you have already begun to hear much. Whether you can accept the Bible’s answer or not, you have reached the point where at least you can begin to hear it too.

    – Originally published in Wishful Thinking and later in Beyond Words


    1. Thank you for sharing, Mary. I appreciate your insights. I love the idea of finding the question that is being asked of me. I will definitely be contemplating my question.


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